My rights, Her rights, His rights . What about Allahs rights

Asalamu alikum wa Rahmatulahi wa Barakatuhu 

Yes my rights ... her rights and his rights ....is this what polygyny is all about what about the right of our creator ..Do we truly give those rights to him ... we get so caught up with our going ons in this life which is just a passing moment that we forget who is over all things

We do not give Allah his rights because if we did then we would not question why he does what he does why he choose you to be in polygyny ..why he gave you this test ...Instead we argue .fight ... name call ... make trouble for one another ..we question everything Allah puts in front of us

We should be grateful that he choose us we should be grateful that he is testing us ..as we know that Allah only test those he loves 

If you want your rights then give Allah his rights worship him the way he needs to be worshiped ..keep Allah on your tongues remember him day and night ..remember this life is like a blinking eye it goes by so quick .. the next life is what we are looking for and remember in that we will meet our creator and we will be answerable for all we did and those right that we complained about wont be asked about but we will be asked about what we did in this life

Positivity ...Let's Share

Asalamu alikum 

I would like to do a series of positive posts on polygyny ...so i would like to invite you to email me your story on your journey through polygyny  ..or even to say something positive about polygyny ...are you up to the challenge...if so please send your posts to me at cowivesclub@gmail.com...and i will post them if you dont want your name told then say post anonymously

Jazak Allahu Khairun

LETS SEND SOME GOOD VIBES OUT THEIR

I love you for the sake of Allah

Asalamu Alikum 

Love of Allah comes from the heart it isnt words that are spoken .... when dealing with polygyny and other wives we should truly mean when we say i love you for Allahs sake .. but the reality is alot dont it is words they say to please their husband but their hearts dont mean those words ....

Could you imagine the hasant their is in saying these words ..it means that you love Allah first and for his sake you will love everything around you even if you dont like it

True love for Allah can melt the heart in ways beyond our imaginations ..a feeling of warmth can take over because with this love comes a true connection with Allah

Look at this hadith

On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "Allah will say on the Day of Resurrection: 'Where are those who love one another through My glory? Today I shall give them shade in My shade, it being a day when there is no shade but My shade.'" [Bukhari (also by Malik).]


How blessed would you be to have the shade of Allah over you
and to know that this is because you truly loved for his sake ... you didnt do it because you were told to my other or because you wanted something in return something that would be of no benefit to you later down the road


I truly love you all for the sake of Allah and when i'm blessed with my cowife .. i will truly love her too not because she is married to our husband but because she is my sister in islam and i want for her what i want for my self ...ALLAHS LOVE

Same old same old

Asalamu alikum

It has been a while and nothing really to report ... hubby is still looking for another wife but also believe that Allah will give to him when and if he decides to ... we joke alot about it these days as their isnt any point in letting yourself going crazy and wondering when it will all happen 

i have indeed been blessed with many good sister and to the point i have been able to help in their problem with polygyny ... nobody ever said it was easy but i do believe that it depends on your relationship with Allah and those you connect yourself with ...if ppl are around you reminding you of Allah then the shyatan cant get himself in their 

Their are days that pass and i sometimes think that it will never come to pass and then their are days i think maybe soon ..but one thing i dont do is allow it to take over my life and my thoughts ..... i fill those spaces with remembrance of Allah  and as long as i do that Allah will be their for me no matter what

My hopes and dreams

Asalamu Alikum 

My hopes and dreams of having a co wife 

I hope and pray that one day that you will be here that you will bless the lives of all of us in this family and that we will becomes as one .... i hope that our lives can be lived as one and that we will have all the same goals in life that will help us reach jannah and in doing so that we will please Allah first and fore most and then our husband

It saddens me to know you arent here yet but i know that Allah plans first and what he has in store for us all will be beautiful ... i hope and pray that we will be able to reach a love that will please Allah and also please our husband and that love will blossom over time and our family will be the better because of it 

I know i ask for alot but why not i truly believe that Allah will bless me with the prefect co one day and that we will be able to fight the shyatan at times when he tries to place trouble between us all

Even if Allahs plan isnt for us to be like this i do hope and pray that we will follow the laws of Allah and be the best Muslimahs we can be and at the same time be good to one another

I wait patiently for this day And i will continue to make dua that it wont be too long before i get to know you

IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO WISH THAT ONE DAY WE WILL BE ALL BLESS WITH THE BEST OF THIS LIFE AND THE NEXT

How to go about polygyny

Asalamu Alikum

How to deal with polygyny

Well the time has come and he is looking for no 2/3/4 and you sit waiting to see if he has found her at this time shyatan will come to you and your mind will go with what he whispers ..you will start to  think what if's and placing yourself in a situation and wondering how it will work out ... this is the shyatans way to place doubts in your mid and trying to put a stop to it

The best thing to do is not even think about it let it be and get on with your normal life do your daily things and leave it in Allahs hands and when the time comes and he has found someone then you cantry to either get along with her or not ... 

And the time he is with her this is the time to find yourself and do things for yourself that you may have not been able to do before

Dont allow yourself to be engulf  in what is going on with them worry about your own marriage and the life you built with him ... yes i know that you wont see him as much but the time you do see him make it worth it

The emotions we go through

Asalamu alikum

So once you are told or you find out that he is intending to marry or has gone through with it your body fills with emotions ...some women will scream some will cry some will throw thing and some wont do nothing at all ... no matter what it is we all go through some type of emotions  it is how we deal with them is the answer 

I do believe that reaching out to Allah at times like this is the best way as he knows us better than we know ourselves cry if you need to but cry to Allah make dua ask him to take away the feelings your having the pain your feeling 

We will never understand why Allah made men this way but he did and now we need to try to get by by asking Allah to help us 

Even the most pro polygyny ppl can have those day where she feels like she wants to scream but knowing that this maybe the biggest test she will ever have is enough to know that Allah loves her to test her this way so we should all think in this way .... i know it is easier said than done and women are made with so much emotions that it takes over

But remember

Love yourself enough to Allow yourself to take this test head on

The Beginning

Asalamu alikum

I have started many blogs and in the end took them off as i found that maybe just maybe their was too much info out their and i need to respect certain ppl i also needed to change the way i spoke about my life and my family and polygyny in general

I found that when nothing was happening i had nothing to write so i will base this blog on the polygyny and my life as i see it and how i cope with it all

to start it off ... i would never have believe that i would have become very pro polygyny as i was surrounded by ppl who were always negative and always said i will never allow him to or he will have to divorce him and i found my self doing and thinking the same and even said it to him that i would never accept it and he would get annoyed but never got angry as he knew that one day i would change he knew me better than i knew myself 

it was the same when we made hijarah and i found that before this i was so fed up at listening to ppl that this was haram and that was haram but when i moved i found myself Islamicly and started to understand my deen the way i should and for myself so years later i really started to think about polygyny and found myself surfing the net and looking at blogs and i began to understand more up to the point that i was about to tell him to go find another as he was always traveling  and it would be the best solution  as i always worried about him  and knowing that he had another wife looking after him would ease my mind 

But before i could say it to him he came to me and at first my heart pounded by i knew Allah was with me so i asked him if he could be just between both and he said yes so i said ok ... he was so shocked as he thought i would get angry and explode but also knew that i would calm down and be behind him ... this is when everything change for us