Polygyny ..is it really the problem

Asalamu Alikum

I was having thoughts the other day and was wondering to myself ..do we women ..wives really have a problem with polygyny for us to behave the way they do or is it a way to control the man ..knowing that some men are weak and all the want is quietness so they will do anything to keep the piece even if it means wives getting hurt ... i think if the man shows that he is the man these women wouldnt have the chance to play him ...

Now what i mean by men being week it is after they marry and have 2..3..4 wifes are making trouble and constant complaining to him and rather than deal with it he gives in ...which means that yes one or more of the wives get hurt 

Men who want polygyny need to learn and know that they are the man of the house and wither every woman agrees or not we all want that alpha male the one that takes control ...when things get out of control he needs to take a stand and show his wives who indeed is the boss ...because if not it only take a small opening of weakness and the women will jump on it

What it all boils down to is Allah made man the way he is wither we like it or not and he made women the way they are wither we like it or not ... placing trust in Allah before everything else will always get you by and these mind games we like to play with our men will seem so trivial ..and the love Allah will take over and with this love the love or our husband  will become stronger too

How to go about polygyny

Asalamu Alikum

How to deal with polygyny

Well the time has come and he is looking for no 2/3/4 and you sit waiting to see if he has found her at this time shyatan will come to you and your mind will go with what he whispers ..you will start to  think what if's and placing yourself in a situation and wondering how it will work out ... this is the shyatans way to place doubts in your mid and trying to put a stop to it

The best thing to do is not even think about it let it be and get on with your normal life do your daily things and leave it in Allahs hands and when the time comes and he has found someone then you cantry to either get along with her or not ... 

And the time he is with her this is the time to find yourself and do things for yourself that you may have not been able to do before

Dont allow yourself to be engulf  in what is going on with them worry about your own marriage and the life you built with him ... yes i know that you wont see him as much but the time you do see him make it worth it