Asalamu alikum
When that time comes and the man is deciding after meeting a potential wife wither he will go ahead ... he comes to his wife and talks to her he tells her that he found someone and is interested in her straight away the wife has a million of question to ask and her mind starts to ramble ... is this good for her or not is it better to stay silent ... she decides to just ask the simple question like name... age just the question to give her an idea of who this sister is
After this they get on with life .. but the shayatn is starting his job and placing so many more questions their .. questions that at the moment their isnt answers but he places them their knowing that if you keep asking them your husband may get annoyed ...so what to do
you need to seek refuge in Allah from the shyatan and not let his whispers get to you because the reality is it's not your problem ... the husband is the one that needs to deal with this as long as your right are been given and he isnt doing anything haram then it's best to stay silent
Just make dua that Allah gives the right person to help your family grow and prosper and that she will be a benefit to you all .... and keep yourself to yourself like that your husband is happy and it make life easy for all
After this they get on with life .. but the shayatn is starting his job and placing so many more questions their .. questions that at the moment their isnt answers but he places them their knowing that if you keep asking them your husband may get annoyed ...so what to do
you need to seek refuge in Allah from the shyatan and not let his whispers get to you because the reality is it's not your problem ... the husband is the one that needs to deal with this as long as your right are been given and he isnt doing anything haram then it's best to stay silent
Just make dua that Allah gives the right person to help your family grow and prosper and that she will be a benefit to you all .... and keep yourself to yourself like that your husband is happy and it make life easy for all
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ReplyDeleteWell said. Have shared my point-of-view on this topic (see link below) that summarises four key areas:
ReplyDelete– Negating a divine decree from Allah;
– Polygyny is an option;
– What a wife needs to understand;
– What a husband must understand
http://www.fearthehellfire.com/2015/05/does-polygyny-violate-basic-rights-of.html
Jazak Allah khair ... and thank you for taking time to comment
ReplyDeleteAhh I know that feeling all too well. I've asked him not to tell me . anything until he can answer my 1000 questions. Reason is we're both still young and it is so difficult for.me to know when enough is enough. I can't handle knowing half the story so I'd rather be in the dark until he has the whole story.
ReplyDeletethats the best way sis ... we can drive ourselves crazy waiting for the little bit and always wondering and then asking question that he cant answer so best leave it till all the story is their
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