My hopes and dreams

Asalamu Alikum 

My hopes and dreams of having a co wife 

I hope and pray that one day that you will be here that you will bless the lives of all of us in this family and that we will becomes as one .... i hope that our lives can be lived as one and that we will have all the same goals in life that will help us reach jannah and in doing so that we will please Allah first and fore most and then our husband

It saddens me to know you arent here yet but i know that Allah plans first and what he has in store for us all will be beautiful ... i hope and pray that we will be able to reach a love that will please Allah and also please our husband and that love will blossom over time and our family will be the better because of it 

I know i ask for alot but why not i truly believe that Allah will bless me with the prefect co one day and that we will be able to fight the shyatan at times when he tries to place trouble between us all

Even if Allahs plan isnt for us to be like this i do hope and pray that we will follow the laws of Allah and be the best Muslimahs we can be and at the same time be good to one another

I wait patiently for this day And i will continue to make dua that it wont be too long before i get to know you

IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO WISH THAT ONE DAY WE WILL BE ALL BLESS WITH THE BEST OF THIS LIFE AND THE NEXT

Why is polygyny always seen in the bad way

Asalamu alikum 

So why is it that polygyny is always seen in a bad way ...why do we make more of it than it should be ... if indeed we believe in Allah and the prophet saws and we follow the ways of the salaf ... then why is polygyny spoken of badly and why is it not practiced the way need be

Polygyny is often see in a bad way because of the way we go about it ... on one hand you have men wanting this And believe me ALL MEN want polygyny just they dont go about it for one reason or another and if you believe that your man isnt one of them then you need to seek3Allahs help because EVERY MAN does ...anyway the way men go about searching for the next wife doesnt help as alot of men will do this in serect and even once married cant bring themselves to tell their wife/wives  and because of this polygyny is seen in the wrong way 

Also one of the other reasons are because men arent being men they Allow their wives to rule what is done and how ...this cant be a man needs to take control of his home as this is his responsibility and he will be held accountable for his family as well as himself on the day of judgement  when women are let go and allowed to take charge their emotions always get the better of them and this is when the shyatan comes and gets involved ..he places ideas their that arent really their but makes you feel that it is something bigger than it actually is ... so for this reason men need to take the control back and he needs to prove that he is indeed a man and can lead his family to jannah

We also have the idea of polygyny being used as a way to break families up which isnt true ... what is written for each marriage is in fact that it is written ... in coming wives are not their to destroy a family she is their as Allah wrote for her to be their and the man she married is who she was intended to marry the fact is that he is also married to another .... until we allow our hearts and mind to believe in true qadar of Allah then we will always use the blame game and never see the truth behind it all