What Stops us

Asalamu Alikum 

What is it that stops us from wanting polygyny or even looking into it ...we know the shaytan places alot of negative thoughts out their but also from ourselves we fear it 

My thoughts are that some ppl find distance a problem for example ..when ppl meet over the net or even through other parties but still from the net and everything is going well but you fear about moving their because you arent sure how it will turn out esp when women are involved ..we never know if our co wives are going to change and be the opposite of what they were before the move but the reality is even with out a move and your in the smae place we never know what will happen and thats when we need to place our trust in Allah and know he knows best 

The other things that stops us is the horror stories out their and we believe that it may happen to us ....but when you have complete trust in Allah and you believe in his Qadar then you know what ever happens is what has already be written 

It's this fear that the shyatan get a grip on and plays with and we need to stop letting he grab it .... when you place your self in Allahs hands and his trust then the fear will go and after that the shayatn has nothing else to do but go 

If i had let the fear of what has happened in the past with my ex co's then i wouldnt be here right now ... i do believe that each trial we go throught is their to help us along our path and to open our eyes to the power of Allah and what i in his hands ...so if i can let go and not allow the fear to take over then you all can